How to Transform into the Person you Want to be

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What are you meant to do with your life? What is your life purpose? These are not easy questions to answer and truly require self-exploration and soul searching. Figuring out what you truly believe in, what you’re passionate about, and what your life-calling is, may be a process that continues through out the life-span.

It’s a journey that involves uncovering what really motivates you and where your purpose can serve a greater good.

Being involved with writing and education, I find it invaluable to continue learning and bettering myself. There is always room for improvement, and as life goes on I run into new areas of interest and ways to grow. The more I learn the more I discover who I am, and what I’m capable  of.

Similarly, as you grow, you have an opportunity to continually mold yourself into the ideal person you want to be.

Make the effort to learn more and grow as a person. Give yourself a big dream and something to strive for that keeps you motivated and driven by a purpose.

Whether you are reinventing yourself because of a career change, following your life mission, or just trying to find your niche, keep moving confidently toward your goals and never quite. There are so many ways to begin self-transformation. Below are just a few.

Find your Direction through Self-Evaluation

Start the process of self-transformation by evaluating where you are now, compared to where you want to be. This involves assessing your valves and desire.

Answer these questions: What is most important to you?  What would be the one thing you would do if you could choose to do anything?

Stop striving for things that don’t make you happy and start to love your work and make it your mission. Create a vision for your future that gives you inspiration and enlivens your ambitions.

You can have fun at what you do. A person having fun at what they do is less likely to quit when the going gets tough, and is more likely to attract others to be a part of their mission. Develop your vision, believe in your purpose, and start to enjoy the experience of reinventing yourself.

By developing self-awareness of your values, interests, and talents you can understand what’s truly important. You can discover what sparks your passion, and align your goals with these values and abilities.

Learning, Training, and Doing

“All wish to possess knowledge, but few, comparatively speaking, are willing to pay the price.” – Juvenal

Do you often go to workshops and seminars? What is your source of personal development? Committing to education whether formal or informal is essential to expanding your identity and developing into the person you want to be.

If you could do only one thing right now, starting learning about the area or occupation you are most interested in pursuing. Keep researching and finding information that relates to the new you, and figure out how to get where you are going.

Combining training and hands on experience with education is a fundamental way to transform your abilities and help you achieve goals. Seeking out new knowledge through experience, will provide the skills that enable you to pursue new and exciting endeavors. Mary Jaksch of Goodlife Zen suggests the importance of including education and training as part of starting a new project. Particularly, how it should even be considered part of the expected expenses of a new endeavor. We will need to learn along the way, so accept this as a positive growing experience, not as an inconvenience.

Get Feedback from Others

Another great way to begin growing and expanding, is to get feedback from others whom you trust and admire. Constructive feedback allows you to make changes and improve in areas where growth can be gained. This is where you gain real world advice and specific ideas that relate to you personally.  How can you specifically alter your situation to make it better?

Don’t let feedback discourage you or limit your willingness to transform yourself. Feedback is meant to show where improvement can be made. Take feedback and use it to grow and improve.

Remove your ego and don’t focus on feedback as a “personal attack”. Trust the person who is providing advice and believe the feedback is going to help you move closer to your achievements.

Also, recognize the important of building a relationship.  Avoid simply thinking “What’s in it for me?” Realize a relationship must be cultivated for another person to take an invested interest in your success. Not only are you receiving help with your own transformation, but are sharing and serving others in expanding their purpose and continuing their own development.

Embrace Change

Get excited about transforming yourself and look at the process as a valuable opportunity to better yourself. Change is an inevitable part of life, and you can either resist the inevitable, or look forward to new experience and prepare for a new role and responsibility.

People can learn new things by following a growth mindset, and believing they can improve in areas of weakness and continue building on strengths.

Keep your vision of the future in your mind and begin to develop a plan to get there. Organize the steps to take, start learning and practicing new skills, and work to obtain necessary resources. By doing this you can start becoming the extraordinary person you were meant to be.

Keep reading! Some related articles:

Grow to Greatness: Five Principles of Successful Self-Growth

The Personal Renaissance: Listen to your Calling and Follow

Reframe your Identity and Have a Self-Revolution

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  • Baedwards1

    Great insights! My problem is not being discouraged by feedback from others. It stops me dead in my tracks if they feel my idea for change is not a good one.

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  • Anonymous

    Hi Barb! Thanks so much for commenting. I really appreciate it. I agree with you, especially if we feel really connected to our idea. For me it can also be discouraging because feedback means I might have to put in a lot more hard work to make the changes. It can be very frustrating, but in the long run hopefully a good thing.

  • Christopher Lovejoy

    Hi Joe, you have an interesting take on transformation. My own preference is to focus on personal ascendance as a culmination of personal growth (Being), personal fulfillment (Having), and personal development (Doing) – and then looking back at what I’ve been, had, or done for evidence of transformation. In other words, I see personal transformation as an ancillary benefit of growing, fulfilling, and developing through being, having, and doing, respectively.

  • Anonymous


    Thanks for making time to comment. I really like your perspective. The three areas of focus you suggest are great way to approach transformation. Looking at transformation as a mix of “growing, fulfilling, and developing through being, having, and doing,” is said about as well as can be. Thank you my friend.

  • Anonymous

    My pleasure, Joe, and thank you for the opportunity to express.

  • Anonymous

    Joe I think self evaluation that leads to a crystal clear understanding of one’s own values is critical. I love that you made that point. I think a lot of people dance around self evaluation because it is easier to look out the window than to look in the mirror. Our life is ours to live, but how can anyone know how they want to live without first looking at themselves honestly?

  • Anonymous


    Thanks for commenting! Though self-evaluation is not the most glamorous part of reinventing ourselves, it is definitely an undeniably crucial part. We need the self-awareness of what really matters to us, and the awareness of our strengths, and a realistic perspective of our abilities to make any major changes happen. This can be tough to accept, but our ideal self and real self with come into contact at some point, we might as well be prepared.

  • The Skinny On

    Hey Joe,

    “Stop striving for things that don’t make you happy.”

    Right there. That’s it.

    Only do what makes you happy. The rest just makes life seem harder and shorter. Not always easy of course to shed the bad stuff, but use your heart as a compass and you will go great places.

    Thanks for sharing your insight.

    The Skinny On

  • Joywboyle

    Joe – What if I have difficulty in finding out what I am really passionate about?

  • Anonymous

    Thank you for the remarks. Yeah I recently came across the idea of following the compass of your heart, with the magnet of you head. Or in other words, making decisions based on both emotions and reason; using both our hearts and our heads to develop ourselves. I think this is one way to begin making important and meaningful decisions in a practical way.

  • Anonymous


    It’s great to hear from, and thanks so much for commenting! That is a very good question you pose. For me I have found it helpful to pay attention to those things that intrinsically motivate me. Or the things that I’m driven to do because I want to, not because I get paid, or I think I’m supposed to. These are things I find challenging, exciting, and interesting. For instance, I will always play the music and write regardless of external reward, though it can be time consuming ;) I am drawn to do these things as a livelihood, not as a occupation, though I think at some point I can begin to transform these activities into an occupation in some way or another. Hope this helps.

  • Dia

    Nice post Joe, I think we should focus on our goals and what we want every single day. We always should look for ways to improve ourselves and do what makes us happy. Thanks for sharing

  • Anonymous


    Thanks for commenting! You sum up living the “good” life very nicely. Making the attempt to “do good” and “be good” in all the ways we can is what it’s all about. Trying to better ourselves, work toward goals, and experience joy is great way to approach life.

  • Go Jonny Go

    It’s all about developing the your personal brand. Great stuff.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks so much for commenting! I agree, and didn’t really view if from that perspective. But it’s about discovering the kind of person you want to become and cultivating that brand and image. This is particularly relevant to today’s day in age.

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